Developing Good Habits For A Fruitful Life...

Good habits are something that most people want to develop more of. No one wants to be riddled with bad habits, because they are usually bad for them, something that might be embarrassing or harmful in some way. Every New Year hundreds of thousands promises to break their old habits and replace them with new habits. Some promise exercise, others plan to quit smoking and the list just goes on. Unfortunately of those thousands, only a handful change, their habits and maintains their new lifestyle for more than a couple of weeks. Old habits can be difficult to break, but there are a few ways to help bring the new in and get rid of the old. Life is too short for bad habits, it is high time that you put a little trust in yourself, your spirituality and lean on the following to change your habits once and for all.

Replace Good For Bad
For every bad habit there are 3 good ones. Take the time to find a “good” habit to replace the old habit. It might be drinking a glass of water every time you have the urge to smoke a cigarette or jogging in place every time that candy bar calls your name, but do something. Not only does this help take your mind off the old habit it begins to retrain your brain. The brain, of course is an intelligent piece of machinery, it will learn quickly that those urges get filled with a glass of water or a short run in place, and stop calling! Eventually the new habit will become “the habit” and the old will be long gone.

One At A Time

One of the biggest reasons that New Year’s resolutions get broke is because there is a huge list of them. People are trying to change their whole life, which can be pretty devastating to the body. Remember the human body is a creature of habit, so take it slow. Work on replacing or quitting one bad habit at a time. Spend about a month on each habit to really focus in on it and retrain the brain, remember it takes some time!

Use Triggers
Triggers refer to something that reminds you of your old habit. For those trying to quit drinking, it might be a friend’s house, for those looking to lose weight; it might be that nightly ice cream in front of the television set. Use these triggers to build a different ritual. The rituals can be anything, though preferably something good! How about a snap from a rubber band on the wrist, reading the Bible when the urge for a drink comes on or a quick bath when the ice cream calls?
All of these ideas are ways of replacing bad habits with good ones. Have faith that you can do it, and tell yourself that it is not “if” you can, it is “when” you can........Good Luck

3 MINUTE RESCUE REMEDY

FIRST MINUTE: Close your eyes, Notice your thoughts and the sound around you.Gently bring your focus to your breathing.

SECOND MINUTE : Continue focusing on your breath moving in and out .If your thoughts distract you, gently acknowledge them, "Oh There You Are"

THIRD MINUTE : Feel your breathing moving to the tips of your fingers and toes and to the top of your head as you breathe in and out.

WHEN YOU ARE READY OPEN YOUR EYES

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Building Hope In Uncertain Times

Any negative or hard event can leave a person feeling hopeless. It is because human nature is to dwell on the negative unless the individual can find ways to build a better understanding and come to the realization that it is only temporary. Seeing the good can be difficult, but not impossible. Remember if you have breath, you have life. That means another day that you get out of bed is a new chance, a way to start over of sorts. Now it doesn’t mean that the slate is wiped clean, however with time it can be. Here are a few tips for finding hope within your own life, even when times are tough or there seems to be no hope!

Let Some Of It Go
Feeling of helplessness or hopelessness is due to a person’s belief that there is nothing they can do to rectify the situation. They continue to beat themselves up over whatever went wrong, sometimes when it isn’t even their fault. Some of this is normal human nature, but it can only go on to a certain point. At some time, you must let go of the anger, frustration, disappointment or whatever other emotions that you might be suffering with. So you made a mistake, realize that you are human, and to error is human. Give it up and physically speak that you are done with carrying the burden, this might be through prayer or visiting with someone close to you. Now does that mean that you will forget, no, you will likely never forget, but forgiving yourself is the very first step.

Praise For Strengths
Oftentimes when a person has lost their hope they begin to focus on the negative of themselves as well as others around them. This is a dangerous pattern because it can lead to depression as well as other negative health issues. Take the time and think of the strengths that you have, how you have overcome turmoil in the past. Think about what your good at, it might be good at organizing, talking with others or you might be an awesome handyman, the point is to just focus on the good, replacing the bad thoughts. Speak kind of yourself to others and to yourself, absolutely no negative!



Surrounded By Love
Those that love you have hope for you. There is no better way to find that hope yourself than surrounding yourself with those that have a kind regard for you. Not only will their hope and positive spirit rub off on you, it also creates a positive environment. Hope is where happiness is, so take yourself to those places where happiness and love abounds.

How to Build Self Confidence ...Part Two

Thank you for your patience and welcome back to part two of building confidence; before we fire
on I will like to assume you are prepared for this exercise. Preparation and the will are usually important as this determines and provides you with the opportunity to explore reasons you feel building confidence are important or relevant to your life. Refer to part one if you have not done so.
Confidence is preparation. Everything else is beyond your control. ~Richard Kline

Self esteem and building confidence work hand in hand and I could not help but revisit self -esteem last week and will be revisiting this topic again .Self esteem as you all know is essentially determined by the value we but on ourselves. It is a measure in which we use to appraise or evaluate our worth. So when you measure self down you will obviously end up with low or poor self esteem and will most certainly find it difficult to enjoy the attributes of the confident person.. Self confidence is generally characterised by personal attributes such as independence, assertiveness, affection, trust, optimism, enthusiasm and many more positive virtues .

Here are Some of the Benefits of the Confident Person

Self confident people are generally happier and smile more often .

Are not held back by fear and are able to take risks, positives ones.

Most of them are successful people.

They are able to mange anxiety better in tense situations.

Are able to accept praise and praise others .

Have generally reported improved health.

As being and building confidence is not inherited and can be learnt ; here are some practical tips/ exercise for you. Remember practise make perfect and as I have mentioned before, when we are learning something knew it may not be easy or pleasant but the more you push one with determination the better the results. Seek help from support groups if you are struggling.

Practical Tools to Boost your confidence.

1, Reasonability; this is pretty straight forward start learning to take responsibility for your own actions. Cut the blaming, making excuses and pushing the responsibility over to others. You most certainly will start feeling better and more confident once you learn how to be responsible for own your choices. We all make choices even when we decide not to, that’s a choice. The Key here is listening to yourself when you talk to others and be true to yourself , can you hear yourself blaming others?

2, Use your Mirror; I love this one because I make good use of my mirror I Smile say nice things to myself; do the same and practise it daily and don’t do this in an obsessive manner . Learn to appreciate you and how you look, it does not matter if you are too tall, fat or short what matters when building confidence is your ability to feel good about you. I am sure so can site someone you feel you look better than; yet they have more confidence than you.

“We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies”. ~Roderick Thorp, Rainbow Drive

3, The Feel good foods; Yeeepe!!! this is great because you simply can buy these foods and they will work on or interact with certain chemicals in the body to lift your mood. Some example of these of theses foods are Black beans, walnuts, chickpeas, oranges and chocolate and of cause in moderation. Try and keep a healthy diet and exercise too; My FoodhealthMood blog will enlighten you more on this area.

4, Rumours; Talking about others is nasty especially when it is done in a derogatory manner. My attitude to people who do so is get a life.. Learn to talk about what will make you grow, add value to your life and support others. Confident people generally talks about ideas and refer to other people in their conservations in a pleasant manner.

5, Be Honest; Learn to be honest to yourself , we all have a little voice in our head that talks to us when we are wrong, follow your intuition as needed and be honest with yourself.

6,Heads up; now this to me can be a problem and I tell you why ,if you are shy you may for one struggle but here is what to do .Learn to start walking straight and uphold a good posture. Ladies I love my high heels and it has generally helped my here I have no choice but to walk straight and high........ you see it makes me look taller too . When we slump our bodies or constantly look down we send messages of either feeling depressed, shy or tired to our brain.

7, Positivity; Surround yourself with positively and people who will help and support you. When you can do try and support others too, most of us have the ability to support others in one way or the other. Do things you enjoy doing and remember to reward your self.

8, Learn: Try and expand your knowledge ;the saying knowledge is power is certainly true. Finally, learn from your mistake we all make them.

“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.”~ Golda Meir

Good luck on this journey....