How to Build Self Confidence ...Part Two

Thank you for your patience and welcome back to part two of building confidence; before we fire
on I will like to assume you are prepared for this exercise. Preparation and the will are usually important as this determines and provides you with the opportunity to explore reasons you feel building confidence are important or relevant to your life. Refer to part one if you have not done so.
Confidence is preparation. Everything else is beyond your control. ~Richard Kline

Self esteem and building confidence work hand in hand and I could not help but revisit self -esteem last week and will be revisiting this topic again .Self esteem as you all know is essentially determined by the value we but on ourselves. It is a measure in which we use to appraise or evaluate our worth. So when you measure self down you will obviously end up with low or poor self esteem and will most certainly find it difficult to enjoy the attributes of the confident person.. Self confidence is generally characterised by personal attributes such as independence, assertiveness, affection, trust, optimism, enthusiasm and many more positive virtues .

Here are Some of the Benefits of the Confident Person

Self confident people are generally happier and smile more often .

Are not held back by fear and are able to take risks, positives ones.

Most of them are successful people.

They are able to mange anxiety better in tense situations.

Are able to accept praise and praise others .

Have generally reported improved health.

As being and building confidence is not inherited and can be learnt ; here are some practical tips/ exercise for you. Remember practise make perfect and as I have mentioned before, when we are learning something knew it may not be easy or pleasant but the more you push one with determination the better the results. Seek help from support groups if you are struggling.

Practical Tools to Boost your confidence.

1, Reasonability; this is pretty straight forward start learning to take responsibility for your own actions. Cut the blaming, making excuses and pushing the responsibility over to others. You most certainly will start feeling better and more confident once you learn how to be responsible for own your choices. We all make choices even when we decide not to, that’s a choice. The Key here is listening to yourself when you talk to others and be true to yourself , can you hear yourself blaming others?

2, Use your Mirror; I love this one because I make good use of my mirror I Smile say nice things to myself; do the same and practise it daily and don’t do this in an obsessive manner . Learn to appreciate you and how you look, it does not matter if you are too tall, fat or short what matters when building confidence is your ability to feel good about you. I am sure so can site someone you feel you look better than; yet they have more confidence than you.

“We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies”. ~Roderick Thorp, Rainbow Drive

3, The Feel good foods; Yeeepe!!! this is great because you simply can buy these foods and they will work on or interact with certain chemicals in the body to lift your mood. Some example of these of theses foods are Black beans, walnuts, chickpeas, oranges and chocolate and of cause in moderation. Try and keep a healthy diet and exercise too; My FoodhealthMood blog will enlighten you more on this area.

4, Rumours; Talking about others is nasty especially when it is done in a derogatory manner. My attitude to people who do so is get a life.. Learn to talk about what will make you grow, add value to your life and support others. Confident people generally talks about ideas and refer to other people in their conservations in a pleasant manner.

5, Be Honest; Learn to be honest to yourself , we all have a little voice in our head that talks to us when we are wrong, follow your intuition as needed and be honest with yourself.

6,Heads up; now this to me can be a problem and I tell you why ,if you are shy you may for one struggle but here is what to do .Learn to start walking straight and uphold a good posture. Ladies I love my high heels and it has generally helped my here I have no choice but to walk straight and high........ you see it makes me look taller too . When we slump our bodies or constantly look down we send messages of either feeling depressed, shy or tired to our brain.

7, Positivity; Surround yourself with positively and people who will help and support you. When you can do try and support others too, most of us have the ability to support others in one way or the other. Do things you enjoy doing and remember to reward your self.

8, Learn: Try and expand your knowledge ;the saying knowledge is power is certainly true. Finally, learn from your mistake we all make them.

“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.”~ Golda Meir

Good luck on this journey....