Self esteem is one crucial aspect which cannot be overlooked when needing to improve self confidence; hence the reason we revisit this topic again before we continue on part 2 of building confidence.
What is self esteem? Is it how you feel about yourself, view the world or interact with those around you? Some believe that it is how a person feels about the way they look, their intelligence or maybe even their social status. While the working definition may differ from the dictionaries definition it is something that must be recognized to assist with improving the way one feels about themselves. After all the way that we as humans feel about ourselves shows in our appearance, relationships, careers and even the choices that we make. Having a poor self esteem can actually hold you back, not allowing the productive, ambitious and inner beauty to shine through. There is however help for those wanting to improve their own self esteem, it doesn’t take pills, counseling or spending tons of money on therapy either.
Declare Beauty & Stop The Trash Talk
One of the biggest culprits of a low self esteem is yourself, that’s right, you! It is you that gets up in the morning complaining about the bags under your eyes, wrinkles, body and so on. When you trip walking in the front door of the office, you automatically assume that you are a klutz and label yourself. The negative trash talk is one of the most prominent reasons that people feel bad about themselves. They call themselves stupid, lazy, fat, trash, crazy or whatever else they can lay their tongue to. Now they certainly wouldn’t call their child a klutz for tripping or stupid for missing a question on their test, but they will certainly bad mouth themselves. Why is this? It is because we are hard on ourselves, to a fault. Some people automatically assume that others will think the worst of them, so they just go ahead and do it themselves. This has to stop, right now! Avoid thinking, speaking any negativity about yourself, if it isn’t positive, it is not allowed. It makes you feel bad about yourself and actually lowers self esteem greatly.
Understand that no one is perfect and also come to the realization that there are some things in life that simply cannot be changed. If it can’t be changed, do not dwell on it, move on. Focus your attention on more productive parts of the self that can be changed. Happiness and a good self esteem come when a person learns to love themselves even though there are things that they may not be able to change.
One of the worst things for self esteem is to dwell on the negative. Instead of sitting home thinking that you could be thinner, prettier or richer, go have fun with friends. Enjoy the time that you have with others and quit worrying so much about negative, focus on the positive. There is no better way to improve self esteem than to learn to love yourself, even though you’re not perfect and surround yourself with positive people that cherish you!