I am pretty sure we all have one or two people out there who we would rather have nothing to do with due to events which had occurred in the past and has left us with feelings of dread, hate, annoyance, disgust..... ....You name it anything you like! The key here is that there are some people out there that you need to forgive and the question is; are you ready to forgive and move on to your wellness and wellbeing?
Forgiving others can be one of the most difficult things to do in life yet you’ll derive outstanding benefits once you go through the process. Forgiveness is the driving force behind an apology; it has been described in the dictionary in many different words such as let off, pardon, clemency, compassion, kind, tolerance, merciful understanding allowance and many more. The question is’ which of these wonderful words best described you’? New researches are now looking into forgiveness and its relationship to our physical health .This is to say, the world I believe is now paying attention to its importance. A lot of the many benefits however have been linked to our emotional, mental and spiritual wellbeing Some benefits include to reduced stress, improved sleep pattern, more energy (cos.... you are not wasting energy getting angry anymore), better outlook to life, peace of mind and an immune booster.
How to Forgive ...
Be Prepared –In anything you want to do in life preparation is usually the key. You just need to think of want goes on in your mind each time you think about whatever it is that has put you in that position where you feel you cannot forgive. Then ask yourself how do I feel? For most it’s an unpleasant feeling; so then would like to live with it? Or release those horrible feelings..... Yes! Please you need to do this....... it certainly would help you make a life changing decision cum Choice here.....I laugh!! Whatever you do here is based on choice even if you decide not to make one.
Now ; ask yourself how you are going to address the issue.... do you approach the person involved or who had put you in that position of feeling hate, unforgiveness or whatever emotion it is you feel?..... . I generally say speak to that person and let them know your perceptions of them and if needed apologize even if you feel you have not been in the wrong, it makes you a better person.
If you are struggling with the above points sought help from forgiveness programmes, churches, meditation, talking to loves ones etc. What I have learnt through experience is that it could take some people years to get over forgiving; hence the reason forgiveness has been described as a process. So use the above information to see you through and make it quite pleasing- life is too short.
Be back soon .--